Couples and Relationship Therapy
People come to couples/relationship therapy for a variety of reasons including to:
Prepare for a life transition such as getting married, having a child, career changes, relocating, etc…
Repair trust after there has been hurt or betrayal
Increase connection and intimacy - feel more like romantic partners again instead of like roommates or co-household managers
Explore a shift to ethical non-monogamy or navigate ongoing ENM/polyamory
Improve communication and conflict resolution, understand what makes this difficult, and work towards something different
Desire understanding of current relationship dynamics and help shifting to something more fulfilling
And more…If this sounds like the work that you are trying to do in your relationship, contact me to set up a consultation.
Relationships are central to our lives. They bring meaning, joy, and belonging, and at the same time, they can be some of our greatest sources of pain. Intimate relationships in particular have a way of bringing our deepest fears and insecurities to the surface. When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable with another person, it can stir up old attachment wounds and trigger patterns we may not even realize we’re enacting.
And yet, we are wired for connection. Most of us long for closeness, intimacy, and partnership. That longing is part of being human. The work of relationships, then, is not about avoiding conflict or eliminating triggers, it’s about learning how to recognize and navigate them together. Which can be a messy process and couples therapy can help! When couples/relationships are able to identify the cycles they get stuck in, understand each other’s needs, and create new ways of relating, the relationship itself becomes a place of healing, growth, and deeper connection.
I specialize in working with couples and relationships who:
Want to rebuild intimacy, closeness, and connection
Are navigating a big life transition - marriage, parenthood, career changes, relocation
Want to understand themselves and their relationship dynamic better
Find themselves having the same arguments over and over and/or increased conflict
Are engaging in or exploring ethical non-monogamy
Contact me to set up a consultation!
The Process:
Step 1: Contact me to schedule a brief phone consultation. This is a chance for us to get to know each other and see if we’re a good fit.
Step 2: Schedule an intake appointment to discuss relationship history and current concerns
Step 3: Meet individually with each partner to explore personal history, especially familial and relational experiences
Step 4: Begin the work of couples therapy together, focusing on your goals and building new ways of relating.
I offer 60 minute and 90 minute sessions, as well as intensives. Contact me to learn more!
I help couples and relationships of all kinds, including those practicing or considering ethical non-monogamy, slow down, better understand their patterns, and begin to reconnect. In therapy, you’ll have the space to understand one another more fully, have more empathy for one another, explore your cycle of conflict or disconnection, and learn new ways of communicating and supporting one another. Together, we will work towards building the kind of relationship you would like to have with one another.
My approach to couples therapy is grounded in an Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) or attachment lens. This means I’m curious about how your deepest needs for closeness, security, and understanding play out in your relationship. Intimate partnerships often stir up old wounds or insecurities, which can make conflict feel intense and disconnection feel alarming. Many couples find themselves repeating patterns and engaging in maladaptive cycles of communication, even if the content changes.
Together, we will work to identify those cycles, understand each partner’s role in them, and go deeper to uncover the underlying “why.” As we identify these patterns, we’ll also work on building skills for self-soothing, communicating needs clearly, and supporting each other more effectively. Disconnection and conflict will still happen, but the goal is to experience it differently, with more vulnerability, clarity, and closeness. Meaningful change can happen in your relationship and couples/relationship therapy can help!
A Note on Couples/Relationship Intensives
For some couples or relationships, a weekly therapy session doesn’t always feel like enough time to really dig in. It can sometimes feel like you’re just getting to something meaningful, only for the session to end, and by the time the next week comes around, the stressors of daily life have taken over again. This stop-and-start rhythm can make the process feel disjointed and slow.
A therapy intensive offers a different kind of experience: the opportunity to slow down and stay with the work long enough to create real momentum and depth. In an intensive, we’re able to take a deep dive into the heart of your relationship, exploring patterns, emotions, and underlying needs in a supportive environment.
This extended time together allows for greater continuity, insight, and connection, helping you move further in the work you’ve already started or make meaningful progress on issues that feel stuck. Whether you’re looking to jump-start therapy, address a specific concern, or reconnect after a challenging period, a therapy intensive can provide the space and structure for lasting change.
Reach out to learn more!
